To Stay Single or to Cuff, That is The Question. . .

So what is the deal with this whole cuffing season thing? Have people in this century forgotten that you are allowed to be alone? Being single and happy is not a crime, just for the record.

I am sure just about everyone in college has heard about this anonymous app Yik Yak and if you are like me, you are constantly checking it to make sure no one witnessed you eat shit on the sidewalk while on campus but lately all the posts are about relationships and this idea of a “cuffing season”.

Let me define “cuffing season” for those who might be out of touch with this youngster lingo; “cuffing season” is usually a period during the fall and winter months when people get into relationships so that they have someone to cuddle with until the world thaws out for spring and we can break out those bikini bodies and go back to being single. Basically getting cuffed is usually settling with someone for 4 or 5 months because you are too lazy to go out and put in any effort to meet new people and you blame it on the cold weather.

I’m sorry but does anyone else find this utterly ridiculous?! First of all, I go to school in the south so those “cold temperatures” are all of 40 degrees, which is not cold in case you were wondering (just put on a jacket!!). Secondly, what’s the big perk of being in a relationship and having to deal with someone else’s shit? I can barely make sure that my life is together on a daily basis and now I have to deal with another human being’s life?

It’s kind of upsetting that a lot of our college culture today is based around getting into a relationship. I mean if you go up to a group of girls on campus I promise you 80% of their conversations are about boys and reading their mixed signals. Why can’t we all just focus on the fact that we are in college getting a better education with tons of amazing opportunities from internships to meeting awesome new people in clubs? This heavy focus on not wanting to be alone must be stopped immediately!

Being single is awesome! You can do whatever you want, whenever you want (within reason of course).  You can explore the world, take naps on your own schedule and most of all you don’t have to share your food! (Yes, that dinner for two is just for me and no I will not be needing a second set of silverware.) College is about finding yourself through new friends and experiences so let’s lose the cuffing season and get back to throwing huge football parties on Monday nights with friends!

I am not saying all relationships are a waste, I just want people to stop putting such a heavy focus on them. Relationships are great and it is nice to have someone there when you need them but all this pressure to be in a relationship all the time is a lot of mental strain. Let’s put an end the age of Netflix and chill!

To learn more about the horrendous cuffing season epidemic that is plaguing our society please click the link http://www.mtv.com/news/1939186/cuffing-season-science/

An Open Letter to. . .

I want to write this open letter to the boy who broke my best friend’s heart. We all know those guys that leave our best friends’ sobbing for hours after wayy too many glasses of wine who deserved to be called out on their shit.

Dear boys who have broken my best friends’ heart,

I wish you could see her, the girl you left broken hearted on the cold bathroom tiles sobbing about why she isn’t good enough. Was your game after all this time really worth it? I understand that we are all young and “finding” ourselves but you knew what you were doing and for some sick reason you did it anyway. And now here I am, stuck picking up the broken pieces with glasses of wine and tubs of ice cream.

One day, I hope that you have a daughter. I hope that she goes off to college with crazy hopes and dreams about the boy she wants to find and fall in love with. Most of all I hope she finds a guy like you. I hope YOU get the phone call, of her crying hysterically with a broken pride, left feeling inadequate and confused about why anyone would go out of their way to hurt another human being. I hope you are stuck rebuilding her self-esteem and faith in the beauty of life. Then I hope you think back to your “crazy days”. The days where it was all a game to get girls and break hearts. You are the reason someone else’s daughter was crying for days, but it was all “just a game” back then right?

You know what you did and you know it wasn’t right. You left a gorgeous, bright and happy girl devastated to get your quick fix of attention. It is hard enough in this day and age to feel like you are enough for anyone, so why did you lead her on for so long just to shatter her? Time will pass and she will get stronger and find someone better than you, but this is your life so I hope you like it.

To the boy who broke my best friend’s heart I just ask why… I hope the karma you get back was really that worth it in the end.

Most Sincerely,
Her best friend

“The biggest coward of a man,
is to awaken the love of a woman
without the intention of loving her”
-Bob Marley

When the exes attack!. . .

Relationships in college are kind of a joke, let’s be honest. How many people in this day and age are faithful in the real world let alone in college! But are certain people meant to be together? I believe that everything happens for a reason and that the people that come into your life are always there to teach you something. Sometimes they help you to grow and sometimes you are the one who must help them uncover something new about themselves.

Are we all just passing ships in the night? Meant to meet for a bit and then float a drift? This is the current life crisis I am attempting to figure out. Yes, you guessed it, an ex texted me on my birthday and how could I not read into that?! After two years is that even something they are entitled to do?

Sometimes people change for the better or for worse. Sometimes people need to get worse before they get better. Maybe sometimes the best way to handle a situation is to roll with the waves and see where it takes you. Do we fall more in love with the idea of the person or with the actual person? These are all great advice but where have they actually gotten me into figuring out what is best for me?

For now I will have to just see where this new twist in life leads me. Having an old friend who knows your ins and outs is actually kind of nice. I have never been one for believing exes could be friends but maybe time and maturity will change that… Or maybe we will go back to the bickering 20 year olds we always were, only time will tell!

Click the link to see some hilarious texts from exes that is sure to brighten your day! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QV9lRp3LtnU